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Nice Guys Vs. Bad Guys

Published by admin on May 18, 2008

 

 

 
  Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys -
Who Do You Love?
 

You’re about to spend the most useful 5 minutes
you’ve ever spent on improving your future love life.

Read this…

There’s something I want you to do that I KNOW will
improve your natural ability to read into a man’s
behavior and his mind.

And learning to do this homework could mean the
difference between being

HAPPY & IN-LOVE or LONELY & SINGLE.
Whoa… that’s pretty intense - I’ll tone it
down for a sec and give you something to take your
mind to off some of the potential negative stuff that
you might be thinking about here…

Did you see the final Sex and the City episode where
Carrie went to Paris with her lover?

Carrie’s in Paris with her boyfriend and begins
to wonder if she made the right decision to move away
with this man who, deep down inside, she know’s doesn’t
want the same type of life and relationship she does.

As she makes this realization, her ex, “Big”,
has flown to Paris from New York looking to reconcile
with his lost love after realizing his undying love
for Carrie.

And of course, as with all good TV, the two find
each other by luck and fate, and Big finally professes
his love.

Talk about romantic, intense, suspenseful and full
of great drama!

Ok, I thought that might do the trick to warm you
back up.

So what does the story of Carrie’s love life have to
do with YOUR love life?

More than you might think - but we’ll get to that.

That’s why this week I’m giving you a short homework
assignment - and this is what could be the most valuable
5 minutes you’ll ever spend on your love life:

I need you to think about one of the first things
I recognized about women way back in junior high -
it’s something I still see it today in our “grown-up”
dating world.

Why don’t women pick the right guys?

Or even more to the point - why do women pick all
the wrong guys?

If you’ve had your heart broken, been cheated on,
or find yourself giving everything you’ve got inside,
to get little or nothing in return, then you know what
I’m talking about.

****Right Now****

Take 5 minutes of time to yourself.

Tune the rest of the world out for just these 5 minutes.

Now, think about each of these questions for a minute
or two each:

1. What is it about “bad boys” or men that aren’t
“available” that is attractive to women? And to you?
2. Have you ever dated a guy even though you knew
he was a “bad boy” - or found out soon into things?
3. Is there a “nice guy” in your life who would make a
great companion but you’re not attracted to or share a
“connection” with?
Don’t cheat yourself…

Stop, go back, make sure you take at least 5
minutes of time and think about just these questions…

(Trust me - it’s AMAZING what you can actually learn
about the world and yourself if you take a few minutes
of silence to think just about ONE THING at a time. It’s
maybe the BEST thing I ever started doing for myself!)
I’ll give you some more time…

Ok, so you’ve thought about it. Let’s share our
thoughts and compare notes.

*As a quick inside reminder:

This exercise is all about actively improving
your ability to know what a good man looks like
for YOU and to help you pick ONLY the right men now
and in the future.

Picking the wrong men can get you in all kinds of
painful trouble it’s hard to get free of.

But for some reason, women don’t want the guys who
are probably better relationship and love companions.

I’m not going to give you ALL the answers right now,
but I’m going to lead you to finding the answers for
yourself - as it’s a much more effective way of learning.

So…. I’m gonna address the last question first
about “nice guys”.

A friend of mine sent me an article that was on AOL
entitled “What’s Wrong With Nice Guys?”. Here’s a little
quote from the article:

“…Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones?”
This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating
good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to
make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since
women truly are conditioned to be “good girls,” sometimes
we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure
burning “I must have him!” feeling. That’s why we
sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object
of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist
Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys
series of guided imagery tapes. “In order for the
deliciousness of pure lust to be ‘okay,’ it has to be
for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with
the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your
animal impulses, worry-free,” she says…

Interesting, huh?

My friend who sent it to me disagrees with the
idea that women seek out “bad boys” because they
need somewhere to project their guilty lust, and I agree.

I disagree that there’s something “wrong” with
the fact that women are attracted to “bad boys”…

My friend also made the point that the “mainstream”
psychology and behavior world is starting to accept
the idea that women are attracted to “bad boys”.

There’s something to the idea that woman don’t
feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for “nice guys”
who chase after them, dote on them and kiss up to them.

A woman might LIKE the experience of the “nice guy”
doing nice things, but it doesn’t CREATE attraction
or a connection with the woman.

Ever.

Trust me, I know men who are the “nice guy” all
the time and they get so frustrated trying so hard
to please a woman and get her interested.

But it’s like trying to chew bubble gum to solve
calculus problems… It’s hopeless.

And wouldn’t you know it - it works the same
way for “nice women”. Being a “nice girl” can’t
“convince” a guy to like you just because you do
sweet things…

It just doesn’t work like that.

I’ve had women be the “nice girl” with me in the
past. There’s two women I can remember from acting
overly nice and sweet to try and attract me.

Any attraction that was there started falling away.

THE TRUTH of the matter is - kissing up, convincing
and being too “sweet” can kill attraction.

Why?

Our subconscious reacts in ways you often can’t
control and aren’t very aware of.

Being too “nice” sends a signal to the “deep”
part of the mind that tells you “this person isn’t
desirable and is lower status”.

I know, this might sound kind of dark, power-hungry
or weird to you, but it’s what happens with us humans.

People don’t value what they can have too easily,
whether they admit it or not.

Ultimately, when women are around “nice guys”,
they end up unconsciously thinking, “This man isn’t
desirable, I shouldn’t date or pursue this guy”.

(Ok, there can be another reason, but I won’t
disuss it here but it has to do with people who
develop the “nice” persona due to what they feel
they personally lack, and thus “nice” people are
self-selecting and are actually and less confident
and less attractive.)

In the nice guys defense - they might actually
have something better to offer a woman in terms of
what she SAYS she wants (love, trust, companionship,
passion), but the women aren’t able to see it - or
see it as something they want.

Why?

Women don’t develop a connection to the nice guy
and the “connection” is the MAGIC ingredient for
attraction with most women.

Which leads us to the “bad boy”!

You might not agree with me, but women DO feel
that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for “bad boys”.

Of course, I don’t believe that men have to be
jerks, or abuse women in order to make them feel
attracted to them.

But women have a deep attraction mechanism that’s
triggered by men who behave indifferent, superior,
cocky, the list goes of “bad” behavior. You’ve seen it.

“Bad boys” often create inviting and intoxicating
forms of drama - often perceived as playfulness,
sexuality and fun.

When I first talk to women about the bad boy
subject, they jump ALL OVER me and completely disagree.

Then I ask them about some of the relationships
they’ve had in the past.

And guess what?

Most women realize in the course of the conversation
that they’ve dated men they knew fit the “bad boy”
profile.

What makes me laugh is that the realization makes
them argue with me even more!

So why do women date and continue on with “bad boys”?

The answer to this question when I ask it to
women is almost UNIVERSAL.

“We had a great connection”.

Some women call it “chemistry”.

The magic of a connection with a man can be
extremely powerful. Often powerful enough to undo
all sorts of reasoning abilities and ways of perceiving
things.

Women picking and staying with the wrong men is
the single biggest mistake I see women make. It’s the
most common reason why the thousands of women I hear
from can’t find the love and fulfillment they’re
looking for.

But there’s help…

I talk about these and other concepts in detail in
my eBook, “Catch Him And Keep Him”. You can get your
hands on a copy of Catch Him And Keep Him at my website
and be reading it in just a few minutes from now.

Plus, you can get it at what is at my risk-

Why don’t you try the book for a week so you can
decide if you want to keep it?

If you don’t like it, just let me know and I’ll refund
all your money immediately.

Honestly, I think you could learn more in a few hours
reading the book than most women might learn in their whole
LIVES about how to meet and attract men the right
men AND what the specific steps are to develop an amazing
relationship he won’t ever want to come to an end.

Go check it out:

Click Here For Your Free Newsletter And eBook Download
Your Friend,

Christian Carter


 



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45 Free Apple Patch Diet Tips!

Published by admin on May 18, 2008

ApplePatchDiet.com -  Herbal Weight-Management.

1) Resolve to never supersize your food portions-unless you want to supersize your clothes.

2) Start eating a big breakfast. It helps you eat fewer total calories throughout the day.

3) Eating out? Halve it, and bag the rest. A typical restaurant entree has 1,000 to 2,000 calories, not even counting the bread, appetizer, beverage, and dessert.

4) When dining out, make it automatic: Order one dessert to share.

5) Eat the low-cal items on your plate first, then graduate. Start with salads, veggies, and broth soups. Eat meats and starches last, by the time you get to them, you’ll be full enough to be content with smaller portions of the high-calorie choices.

6) Instead of whole milk, switch to 1 percent. If you drink one 8-oz glass a day, you’ll lose 5 lb in a year. Juice has as many calories, ounce for ounce, as soda. Set a limit of one 8-oz glass of fruit juice a day.

7) Get calories from foods you chew, not beverages.

8) Slow Down! Eating at a slower pace allows your mind to register the food that is in your stomach, and can prevent overeating.

9) Keep a food journal. It really works wonders.

10) Follow the Chinese saying: “Eat until you are eight-tenths full.”

11) Use mustard instead of mayo.

12) Eat more soup, the noncreamy ones are filling but low-cal.

13) Cut back or cut out caloric drinks such as soda, sweet tea, lemonade, etc. People have lost weight by making just this one change. If you have a 20-oz bottle of Coca-Cola every day, switch to Diet Coke. You should lose 25 lb in a year.

14) Limit alcohol to weekends.

15) Have a V8 or tomato juice instead of a Diet Coke at 3 pm.

16) At a buffet? Eating a little of everything guarantees high calories. Decide on three or four things, only one of which is high in calories. Save that for last so there’s less chance of overeating.

17) Dance to music with your family in your home. One dietitian reported that when she asks her patients to do this, initially they just smile, but once they’ve done it, they say it is one of the easiest ways to involve the whole family in exercise.

18) Next time you’re feeling wiped out in late afternoon, forgo that cup of coffee and reach for a cup of yogurt instead. The combination of protein, carbohydrate, and fat in an 8-ounce serving of low-fat yogurt will give you a sense of fullness and well-being that coffee can’t match, as well as some vital nutrients.

19) If you haven’t eaten in 3 to 4 hours, your blood glucose levels are probably dropping, so eating a small amount of nutrient-rich food will give your brain and your body a boost.

20) Drink more water! Water will not only prevent your body from becoming dehydrated, it will also help your body to continue to work efficiently throughout the day. Any type of calorie free beverages (ex. diet soda) can be consumed throughout the day as well. We often think that we are ‘hungry’ when we are actually just ‘thirsty’ so drink a glass of water before you head for the fridge!

21) Eat more fruit. A person who gets enough fruit in his diet doesn’t have a raging sweet tooth.

22) Eat your sweets, just eat them smart! Carve out about 150 calories per day for your favorite sweet. That amounts to about an ounce of chocolate, half a modest slice of cake, or 1/2 cup of regular ice cream.

23) Eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The large majority of people who struggle with night eating are those who skip meals or don’t eat balanced meals during the day. This is a major setup for overeating at night.

24) If you’re eating at night due to emotions, you need to focus on getting in touch with what’s going on and taking care of yourself in a way that really works. Find a nonfood method of coping with your stress.

25) Brush your teeth right after dinner to remind you: No more food.

26) Eat without engaging in any other simultaneous activity. No reading, watching TV, or sitting at the computer.

27) Eating late at night won’t cause weight gain. It’s how many calories–not when you eat them–that counts.

28) Walk around the mall three times before you start shopping.

29) Make exercise a nonnegotiable priority.

30) Fat-free isn’t always your best bet. Research has found that none of the lycopene or alpha- or beta-carotene that fight cancer and heart disease is absorbed from salads with fat-free dressing. Only slightly more is absorbed with reduced-fat dressing; the most is absorbed with full-fat dressing. But remember, use your dressing in moderate amounts.

31) Skipping breakfast will leave you tired and craving naughty foods by midmorning.

32) If you’re famished by 4 p.m. and have no alternative but an office vending machine, reach for the nuts–The same goes if your only choices are what’s available in the hotel minibar.

33) Research suggests that you’re more likely to lose weight if you monitor what and how much you eat by writing it down.

34) Tune in to an audio book while you walk. It’ll keep you going longer and looking forward to the next walk–and the next chapter! Check your local library for a great selection. Look for a whodunit; you might walk so far you’ll need to take a cab home!

35) Think yoga’s too serene to burn calories? Think again. You can burn 250 to 350 calories during an hour-long class (that’s as much as you’d burn from an hour of walking)! Plus, you’ll improve muscle strength, flexibility, and endurance.

36) Overeating is not the result of exercise. Vigorous exercise won’t stimulate you to overeat. It’s just the opposite. Exercise at any level helps curb your appetite immediately following the workout.

37) Try 2 weeks without sweets. It’s amazing how your cravings vanish.

38) Use smaller plates or bowls during meal times to keep portion sizes in check and to avoid the temptation to “fill” the plate.

39) Watch out for “fat-free” products. With some products, the fat is often replaced with sugar, and it may contain just as many - if not more - calories! So it is always important to read food labels and exert calorie control!

40) Have fresh fruit instead of fruit juice.

41) Be careful of “empty calorie” beverages such as juice, soda, iced tea, and other “fruit” drinks. They provide you with a lot of calories, without a lot of good nutrition. They also fail to fill your stomach and satisfy your hunger.

42) Soups give you very good value for the calories. They are filling; a bowl of soup can be an entire meal. They are satisfying, for many people, they are more satisfying than raw vegetables, while many give you all the benefits of veggies (if you choose the soups chock full of vegetables).

43) On your next trip to the grocery store, load up on fruits and veggies and skip the candy and cookie aisles. Fool yourself by eating from dessert rather than dinner plates. Those two small steps added up to a huge but painless calorie reduction in a Pennsylvania State University study of 24 women.

44) Drinking water is a significant diet benefit, because the calorie-content of water is zero. Drinking water instead of milk, fruit juices or regular sodas helps to lower the calorie content of your diet and thus helps weight reduction.

45) An average 8 hours sleep burns about 450 calories, so your body NEEDS fuel at breakfast time. Not eating breakfast can cause your blood sugar levels to fall too low during the morning. A low blood sugar level may cause you to get a craving for high-calorie food. Also, going too long without food can cause your metabolism to slow down. Most surveys show that people who don’t eat breakfast are more likely to be overweight.


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